I had an experience yesterday that challenged not only the way I think but how I do certain things. I was learning something new, and having a hard time. I was frustrated and feeling stupid. So much so that at one point I actually felt the need to point out that I really was a smart person.
The person I was talking to is really smart, too, but she knows very little about AD/HD because she has no reason to. It seems many times that when the two of us talk or email one another, there is a communication gap and I end up feeling the way I did yesterday.
As an adult, I recognize that what she has to say is valuable to me, and so I will do my best to follow her advice, regardless of my emotional state. However, I also realized this morning that on some level my reactions and emotions are not that different from those of the kids I work with, except that I recognize them for what they are: childish and immature reactions based on emotion instead of reason.
If, day after day, your very bright child is put into an environment that frustrates them and makes them feel stupid, how long do you think it will take for them to get angry, tune out, or finally give up? How long would it take you? Do you know what it’s like to try and communicate with someone and not be understood? And further, to be made to feel as though the fault is yours?
I don’t have any easy answers here, not today anyway, but I’ll work on it.