A New Woman is designed to help you dig down deep inside yourself – specifically your brain and your heart – and change some fundamental beliefs that you have about yourself. Once you are able to do that, you will be better equipped to deal with your ADHD symptoms and you will have changed your life for the better.
In order to get a better idea of how this all fits together, you need a basic understanding of how the ADHD brain works.
Those of us with ADHD have brains that function differently than people who do not have ADHD.
There are a couple of ways that our brains are different and you need to understand both of them.
The first has to do with something called Executive Function. Executive Function is responsible for things like:
- Working memory
- Time management
- Applying what you have learned
- Controlling your emotions
- Completing tasks
- Working on a schedule
Wow, right? Doesn’t that pretty much sum us up? We have trouble with all of those things!
Now here is the important part that you need to understand:
IT’S YOUR BRAIN, NOT YOU.
Take another look at the inspiration piece up there. You have spent your whole life judging yourself – and having others judge you – based on someone that you are not. You cannot expect to compare yourself to someone who does not have ADHD. It’s not the same thing. It’s like judging a fish by it’s ability to climb.
Keep that in mind. Write it down or have it tattooed somewhere. You need to remember it. You need to memorize it.
Now the second thing that you need to understand comes out of the first.
Again, you’ve spent your entire life comparing yourself to people who do not have ADHD. People who do not have problems with things like working memory and organization and time management. And because you and others have done that, you have continuously found yourself lacking, inferior. You’re a fish who can’t climb.
The result is that you hear a lot of negative stuff about yourself. It starts with your parents (who love you and mean well, but don’t understand) and then you get it from teachers and other adults and pretty soon, it lives in your head all of the time.
And you start telling yourself negative things about you. You even tell them to others.
This is the second part of your brain function that you need to understand. And it’s not just people with ADHD; this is true for everyone.
We all have a conscious and subconscious part of our brain.
The conscious part is the part that you are aware of; the subconscious operates in the background, unnoticed. It does important things like make your heart beat and make sure you breathe.
It also accepts as fact anything you tell it.
It doesn’t matter if it’s true or not. If you tell yourself something, especially over and over, your subconscious stores it as fact.
I’m so stupid.
I can’t do that.
I don’t know how.
I’m so forgetful.
My house is always a mess.
I’m such a scatterbrain.
Think about it; what have you been telling your subconscious all these years?
Now think about this. All of those things that you’ve been saying about yourself – are they true?
But your brain believes that they are.
And when your brain believes that “your house is always a mess”, it reminds you of that in subtle ways every time you think about mopping the kitchen floor or cleaning the bathroom. You don’t even realize that this is what’s happening. What you do know is you think about cleaning something, and then you procrastinate, and then you put it off. You begin to look for motivation to get it done. And you rarely find any.
I’ve told you before that procrastination comes from fear.
That’s what your subconscious mind is doing – making you afraid.
And I know you’re thinking – there’s nothing scary about mopping the kitchen floor.
Rationally, consciously – you’re right. There isn’t.
But the fear isn’t coming from your rational, conscious brain.
It’s coming from your subconscious brain. The part of the brain that’s designed to keep you alive. It makes sure you breathe and that your heart beats.
And when you think about doing something like mopping the kitchen floor, it goes into it’s databank of all the information that it has filed away about you.
Your house is always a mess.
I can’t do that.
What you’re about to do goes against everything that your subconscious knows about you. It has to protect you, so it makes you afraid.
Again, you’re not aware of this. You don’t perceive mopping the kitchen floor as dangerous or scary. But there is enough there to make you hesitate, procrastinate.
And you wind up caught in that endless cycle of putting things off, looking for motivation, finding it once in a while and then starting all over again.
Your life doesn’t have to be that way.
That’s why you’re taking this coaching program. Together we can reprogram your subconscious to think positive things about you and that will change your life.
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