I recently read a book by Rhonda Britten called “Fearless Living“. If you are the kind of person who finds that fear governs too many of your decisions, then you might want to check it out.
I think that a lot of us ADD Moms live too much of our lives in fear and it is robbing us of happier lives.
Not big fear, as in “there’s a bear chasing me”, but little fear, like “what if I forget?” or “what if I don’t know what to say” or “I’ll look dumb”.
I know that too much of my life has been living this way. Some of it was certainly due to my ADHD and some was not.
This morning, for instance, I had to call someone that I didn’t know for a business consultation. This person has been nothing but friendly and helpful since I contacted them by email, but the thought of actually calling them on the phone brought up my social anxiety.
Last week, I did something else that makes me anxious: I went to the dentist and got my teeth cleaned. Doesn’t matter how many years I’ve been going to the dentist; it’s still scary.
One of the things that I liked best about “Fearless Living” is what the author calls “Acknowledgments”.
An Acknowledgment is recognizing and praising yourself for doing something that you’re afraid of, no matter how small.
So last week, as I feebly attempted to relax in the dental chair, I acknowledged my accomplishment. Yes I was afraid, but I did it anyway.
Each of us has tons of negative thoughts each day, almost all directed towards ourselves.
We have a “deficit” and a “disorder”. We forget. We don’t pay attention. We lose things and we have a lot of anxiety.
You know that it takes many positive comments to “erase” one negative one; acknowledgments are a good way to begin.