Emotional Order

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31 Day Challenge: Day 10

I have had an especially rough day today dealing with someone close to me who is very difficult to get along with. It left me feeling out of sorts and wondering what I could do.

I spent some time outside in the sunshine -which always makes me feel better – and gave the matter some thought. I also gave myself the gift of some quiet time to just be.


It occurred to me that not all of the mess and chaos in our lives is the physical kind.

We have emotional messes too.

And sometimes those are more difficult to clean up.

We may live in a negative environment or with negative people.

We may be depressed or anxious.

We may be confused or overwhelmed or just feeling hopeless.

When those things happen, our minds can’t function as well as they should.

We have too much on our minds. Fuzzy thinking.

And if you aren’t depressed yet, you will be if you don’t do something about it.

So what can you do to restore order to your emotional life?

Lots of things. Really.

The first thing to do – and one of the hardest – is to change your attitude.

I know how hard that is, believe me.

My dad lives with us. He can be very angry, negative, and just plain mean. He directs it at me.

Does changing my attitude mean that I have to pretend it’s OK?


Does it mean I have to excuse it?


What it does mean is that I get to choose how I react to him.

I try to stay calm and not engage with him. I say as little as possible when he is in one of his moods.

The important thing is that I choose to take care of myself rather than react to him.

And that’s what I mean about changing your attitude. It’s all about you and self preservation.

Journaling is a good thing to do to help clear out that emotional disorder. So is keeping a gratitude journal – focusing on your blessings rather than the bad things.

Exercise is always good for you and will make you feel better. It also helps your ADHD.

You don’t have to run a marathon; some gentle yoga moves or perhaps pounding a punching bag will do.

Be especially vigilant about your own needs.

Get enough sleep. Eat healthy meals and drink plenty of water. Take your vitamins.

Make a point of getting out and having some fun. Laughter is wonderful medicine.

And above all, remember:


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Lacy Estelle

Lacy Estelle is the writer of Lacyestelle.com and the Podcast host for An ADD Woman.

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