Well of course not. But I bet you feel that way sometimes. And what about your family and friends or co-workers? How much do they think you’re worth?
People with ADHD almost always have low self esteem. When you have a “deficit” and a “disorder” then it’s assumed that you are damaged somehow and therefore not worth as much as others.
The truth is that we are different rather than disordered; we have differences instead of deficits. And I don’t mean different as a euphemism for the truth.
We are different than people who do not have ADHD just as people who do not have athletic ability are different from those who do.
We are all good at some things and not so good at others.
When my children were young, we wrote letters to famous people like athletes and actors and politicians. In our letter we asked: “We can tell what you’re good at; tell us something you’re not so good at doing.”
It was such a treat to get the mail each day! (Yes, it was that long ago. We used our computer for word processing only.)
A children’s book author wrote to say that he could never ride in the backwards facing seat of his family’s station wagon when he was a kid because he would get sick.
A famous actress and comedienne sent us a book about learning disabilities and made a note on the page that highlighted hers.
These people figured out what they were good at and concentrated on that instead of focusing on their weaknesses. Does anyone know if Sandra Bullock is a neat and organized person or if Keith Urban has amazing powers of concentration? Does anyone care?
Which side are you showing to yourself, your family and friends?
Do they see you for your tendency to always be late or your ability to make people laugh? Do they know you as the one who’s always late or the one who is always ready to help?
It’s OK for people to see your faults; we all have them. Just make sure they see what makes you shine too.