Dreamers and Do-ers and ADD


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My husband’s youngest brother is notorious in his family for “dreaming big and doing little”.

When he was in his late teens and early twenties, he was constantly buying old junk cars with the intent of “fixing them up”.

The fact that he never spent any time actually working on any car, knew little about the subject, and had no real interest in the actual work involved meant nothing. He could look at a rusted out piece of junk and see a classic car in it’s place, and that was enough to get him to part with his cash.

My brother-in-law, like most ADDers, is a dreamer. He sees potential and ideas where others don’t, but without a solid plan and some way to keep him on track, his ideas never materialize.


I bet you can relate to my brother-in-law and his dreams. Unfulfilled dreams are part of almost everyone’s life, I suppose, but those of us with Attention Deficit Disorder seem to have more than most.

You know, one of the hallmarks of AD/HD is a tendency to daydream, especially when we should be doing something else, like paying attention.

No one ever tells us when the right time to daydream is; they seem to feel as though daydreaming is a waste of time.

I don’t know about you, but I’ve always felt bad when someone accuses me of daydreaming, possibly because that remark is always followed by the phrase “…when you should be doing…”.

But consider this: would airplanes exist if someone had not dreamed about being able to fly?

Would space travel exist if someone had not dreamed of going to the moon?

Look around you at all the amazing things there are in the world.

This blog is a good example. I am in one place, and you are in another, maybe hundreds or thousands of miles away, yet we can communicate with one another with a few keystrokes. We have dreamers to thank for such things.

And we have do-ers to thank, too, for without them, none of this would likely exist.

Do-ers are good at getting things done, making a plan and sticking to it. But on the other hand, getting things done leaves very little time to dream.

Perhaps you are lucky, as my brother-in-law was; he met and married a do-er. He found a woman to love who can rein in his dreams a little bit, and help him realize the others. My husband and I, alas, are both dreamers, but because we dream different dreams, we can sometimes work together to help our dreams come true.

If you’re a dreamer looking for a do-er to help bring you down to earth just a little bit, there are plenty to be found; you only have to look. Parents, trusted friends, even a coach can help you turn your dreams into reality.

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Lacy Estelle

Lacy Estelle is the writer of Lacyestelle.com and the Podcast host for An ADD Woman.

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