Relationships and ADHD

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Relationships can be hard sometimes. It can be even harder if you have ADHD, and even more so if the person you are trying to relate to does not. (At least another person with ADHD has some understanding of what it’s like.)

And that’s true whether you’re young or old, male or female, whether it’s a romantic relationship or just a friendship.

So what do you do?

Here are some ideas:

If the relationship is important to you, then you need to tell the person about your ADHD and how the symptoms affect you. If the relationship is important to them, they will take the time to listen and to learn. It won’t happen overnight; this kind of stuff evolves over the months and years.

If it’s a more casual relationship, or one you’re not sure of yet, you should probably be careful about “outing” your ADHD. Some people don’t understand, and others just plain don’t believe. Instead, you might note that you tend to be forgetful at times (or whatever) and leave it at that. Once again, if they are really interested in you, they’ll take the time.

In a work relationship, it’s usually best to keep your ADHD to yourself. That’s not always easy, especially when you’re being reprimanded for something that happened because of your symptoms.

Here in the US, Federal law recognizes ADHD as a disability and requires that the playing field be leveled so that you can work to the best of your ability.

The reality, however, is that some people are petty and narrow minded, and that includes those in managerial positions. Proceed cautiously and slowly in opening up about your ADHD.

Relationships aren’t always easy – although sometimes they are.

When you’re trying to work your way through one, go slowly, try to communicate as honestly as you can, and remember that those people who really want to spend time with you will do so – regardless of your ADHD symptoms.

Lacy Estelle

Lacy Estelle

Lacy Estelle is the writer of and the Podcast host for An ADD Woman.

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