How to Be Super Woman

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OK. You know that you can’t really be Superwoman, right?

And yet we all try to be just that for our friends, co-workers, and family.

And in doing so, we put ourselves last.

No. Strike that. There is no place on our list of to dos that says “take care of me”.

But there should be and Mia Redrick agrees with me.

If her name is not familiar to you, Mia is a pretty big deal. She’s been featured everywhere including the Washington Post and the Huffington Post. She has written a book called “Time for Mom-Me” and she is on the Emmy nominated TV show, America Now. She also has a blog called Time for Mom-Me.

I recently read an article that Mia wrote called “Redefining Motherhood: Taking Care of the Me in Mommy” and I loved it so much that I emailed her right away to ask for permission to tell my readers about it.

I got an answer back immediately – which is so cool – and she is just such a real person. Can you tell I’m a fan?

Now since this blog has recently changed from ADD Moms to An ADD Woman, you might wonder why I’m reviewing an article clearly about mommies.

Because Mia’s article is about women; some of us may be moms raising children, some of us may have already raised ours. Some may not have children at all.

That doesn’t matter. If you are a woman in this society, especially a woman of a certain age, you were taught to put yourself last. It’s ingrained in us.

I disagree with that point of view and so does Mia.

Mia began practicing intentional self care (I love that!) before her first child was born on the very wise advice of her mother. That was 16 years ago and now Mia teaches others how to do the same.

Here are five truths that Mia says she has discovered in those 16 years:

If you don’t make your own self care a priority, no one else will.
Be intentional about your needs.
Stop trying to do it all.
Stop justifying your needs.
Embrace the imbalance of motherhood.

I didn’t add Mia’s comments about those five things. You’ll have to go to her blog and read them yourself.

And I would like to add that if you are no longer in the season of mothering, perhaps you might embrace the imbalance of life instead.

At the end of her article, Mia says:

When you are done reading this article, tell five moms that you know that taking a break is good for them!

Consider yourself told. Taking a break is good for you!

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Lacy Estelle

Lacy Estelle is the writer of and the Podcast host for An ADD Woman.

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3 Responses

  1. This is SO true! I spent my first few years of motherhood literally tied to my babies. (I was into attachment parenting.) Now, I don’t regret that investment, but once they were up and about, it was time to reclaim who I was and my own time and interests. I went back to school and got back into swing dancing (a previous passion of mine), and I’m a much more fulfilled person for it. And I think it sets an important example for them! A mother ought to be fulfilled as a whole person with her own interests outside of mothering! I’m proud when my kids tell their friends that I “take out gallbladders” at work! And I love my time with my kids that much more because I’m not overwhelmed by being home 100% of the time…

  2. Good for you! For the past 4 months or so I’ve been taking care of my dad, who is 92 and legally blind. He’s been in the hospital since early December, which has been really stressful for me. After much nagging by a good friend, I have started taking care of myself more and it feels so good! And no matter their age, it’s a great role model for your kids.