I think anyone with ADHD sees words like “schedule” and “structure” and they cringe just a little bit. (Show us the word “organized” though, and we’re all over it).
Schedules and structure imply things we should do but aren’t so good at doing. We know that order is good for us, and that structure creates order as do schedules, but still we shy away.
First, keeping order, keeping a schedule requires remembering – and we all know how good we are that!
But also, order, structure and schedules imply a certain rigidity or regimentation. We ADDers prefer doing things when we feel like doing them. Now the truth is that we often do a better job when we do something because we feel like doing it, but most of us really can’t live our lives that way.
Family, work and other activities can provide some structure to our days, but even then, that only goes so far.
Sure, maybe you have to make dinner every night, but does that mean you know ahead of time what’s on the menu? Or what about at work? You may have a certain set of tasks or projects each day, but do you have a plan for doing them? Or are you doing what you feel like doing first and putting off the rest?
My own life has been disrupted somewhat in the past few weeks and I’m feeling a bit disoriented. A schedule or some structure in my life would be very welcome at this point.
The thing is, I’m easily overwhelmed. (You too?) Now that I have to rearrange my whole life, where do I begin?
Well, I’m going to start with one thing – not my whole life. Each day, I try to come upstairs to my office and post something on mhy blogs, and do other things connected with them.
Right now that gets done when I feel like it. And recent events (or lack of them) shows you how well that works.
So my start on putting some structure back into my life is to designate a time each day when I will work on my blogs and my businesses. I’m still trying to work out the right time, but I think I have it under control. (Or maybe I just don’t want to tell you in case I don’t follow through! :))
You ought to be able to tell if I’m true to my word, though, cause most days there should be a new post on ADD Moms and ADD Student. (Weekends don’t count – I get a break, too).
What one small thing can you find to add order to your life?