Are you a quitter?
Do you often find yourself giving up on things?
Is there a little voice in your head that keeps telling you you can’t?
My mom’s favorite thing? “You can’t do that. Here let me do it.”
She meant well; maybe she was fearful or just impatient. But she sent me a powerful message that she didn’t intend.
I’m not blaming her. I’ve been a grown up for a long time now and it’s up to me to change the things in my head that aren’t true.
Are there messages that you’ve picked up from others about who you are and what you are capable of doing?
I think that most of us with ADHD have experienced so much failure in our lives that we begin to believe things that aren’t true.
“I’ve tried that before and it didn’t work.”
“I’m no good at that. I always just quit after a while.”
“That’s not for me. I don’t have the talent.”
How about this one instead?
I have not failed. I’ve just found 10,000 ways that won’t work. – Thomas Edison
So much of ADHD is about negativity:
- We have a deficit
- We have a disorder
- We have a disability
What if we choose to look at the positive things that define us?
- We are creative
- We see solutions and connections where others do not
- We are not afraid to take risks and try new things
What if you stopped hiding and started doing?
What if there’s something you want really badly, but you’re afraid? You’ll fail. You won’t be any good.
What if, instead, you made a decision to keep trying, to stop quitting?
What if you told yourself you could do it?
Make mistakes and learn from them. Try, try, and then try again.
Measure your progress against yourself; no one else.
Think about professional athletes, especially Olympic ones. They measure progress in tenths and hundredths of seconds.
I dare you.
Pick one thing and master it. Keep trying and don’t give up. Be sure it’s something you really want and then go for it!
You can do it.